Wednesday, April 2, 2014
10 Painfully Obvious Truths Everyone Forgets to Soon
1. The average human life is relatively short.
We know deep down that life is short, and that death will happen to all of us eventually, and yet we are infinitely surprised when it happens to someone we know. LIVE your life TODAY! Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside you while you're still alive.
2. You will only ever live the life you create for yourself.
Your life is yours alone. Others can try to persuade you, but they can't decide for you. They can walk with you, but not in your shoes. So make sure the path you decide to walk aligns with your own intuition and desires, switch paths or pave a new one when it makes sense.
3. Being busy does NOT mean being productive.
Busyness isn't a virtue, nor is it something to respect. It can make us feel more alive than anything else for a moment, the sensation is not sustainable long term. We will inevitably come to wish that we spent less time in the buzz of busyness and more time actually living a purposeful life.
4. Some kind of failure always occurs before success.
Most mistakes are unavoidable. Learn to forgive yourself. It's not a problem to make them. It's only a problem if you never learn from them. Behind every great piece of art is a thousand failed attempts to make it, but these attempts are simply never shown to us.
5. Thinking and doing are two very different things.
Success never comes to look for you while you wait around thinking about it. You are what you do, not what you say you'll do. Knowledge is basically useless without action.
6. You don't have to wait for an apology to forgive.
Life gets much easier when you learn to accept all the apologies you never got. The key is to be thankful for every experience - positive or negative. Grudges from the past are like letting unwanted company living rent free in your head. When you forgive someone you are making a promise not to hold the unchangeable past against your present self.
7. Some people are simply the wrong match for you.
You will only ever be as great as the people you surround yourself with, so be brave enough to let go of those who keep bringing you down. You shouldn't force connections with people who constantly make you feel less than amazing.
8. It's not other people's job to love you; it's yours.
It's important to be nice to others, but it's even more important to be nice to yourself. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world. So make sure you don't start seeing yourself through the eyes of those who don't value you. Know your worth, even if they don't.
9. What you own is not who YOU are.
Stuff really is just stuff, and it has absolutely no bearing on who you are as a person. Most of us can make do with much less than we think we need. That's a valuable reminder, especially in a hugely consumer-driven culture that focuses more on material things than meaningful connections and experiences.
10. Everything changes, every second.
Embrace change and realize it happens for a reason. It won't always be obvious at first, but in the end it will be worth it. That's the one thing you can count on. So when life is good, enjoy it. Don't go looking for something better every second. Happiness never comes to those who don't appreciate what they have while they have it.
Marc and Angel Chernoff are passionate writers, admirers of the human spirit, and full time students of life. Their first book is 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently. They enjoy sharing inspirational advice and practical tips for life on their popular personal development blog, www.marcandangel.com.